Heal Anxious Attachment: How to Let Go of Past Trauma, Build Secure Relationships

Imagine: your partner unexpectedly receives a message from an ex-lover. Your heart starts racing, and thoughts are racing wildly: «How long have they been in contact? Is he cheating on me? Is he going to leave me?» You are overwhelmed with emotions. When you ask about the message, you are already yelling because you have mentally painted the worst-case scenario. In response, the partner takes a defensive stance and dismisses you (instead of calming you down). You threaten to end the relationship. That's the last thing you want, but control is already lost, and you cannot be stopped.

After that, panic hits, a torturous fear that your partner will decide to break up because of your «crazy» behavior. You feel confusion and shame about your reaction. «Something is wrong with me; I am not okay. I will always be alone.» These thoughts wound you, undermining your self-esteem and self-trust. You desperately need reassurance that your partner is faithful, that he loves you, and that you are safe in this relationship.

Sometimes you receive such reassurance. Other times — you don’t, and then you find yourself back in the vicious cycle of feeling out of control; moreover, you get the feeling that you are going crazy. If you are familiar with these feelings — this book is for you. With it, you can break the cycle, alleviate anxiety, understand the mechanisms that trigger it, and restore calmness, confidence, and clarity in your relationships.

«You can regain stable self-esteem, trust, and self-confidence to live and build relationships from a place of calm and deep connection with yourself. You are ready. You deserve it.» Jennifer Newrick