Take Care of Yourself. A Guide for Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents

A new book on how to learn to take care of yourself, from the author of "Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents," "The Freedom to Be Yourself," and "Choosing Myself."

If you are ready to gently cultivate a deep sense of self-worth and strengthen your self-confidence, this book is your reliable guide to a new life. It has an unusual format: Lindsay offers short reflections on a wide variety of topics that can be read in any order to find answers to your questions and support in difficult situations. The book has three parts dedicated to relationships with yourself and others, and the perception of life in general.

If you grew up with emotionally immature parents, you may feel anger, sadness, insecurity, or shame. Likely, many of your emotional needs were unmet in childhood, feelings were ignored, and you had to strictly control yourself to adapt to your parent's behavior. At some point, you lost connection with your true "self," and without understanding meaning and direction in life, you may feel that your well-being has little value.

What you will find in the book:

Part 1
How to protect yourself and take care of yourself

If you were taught from childhood to put others first, at some point in your life, you may find that you have been constantly reacting to what is happening around you instead of striving for something important. It's time to learn to support and protect yourself, as well as to value your inner world. Your true "self" will become the core and foundation of the self-awareness you gain. The search for your own "self" is a life-giving process that brings new and new gifts. You just need to make the decision to stay on the chosen path.

Part 2
How to interact with others. If you think that the secret to happiness lies in relationships with the right partner, you may not understand that the primary relationship in your life is with yourself. By learning to build a relationship with yourself, you will be ready to enter relationships with others. It doesn't matter what type of connection it is — friendly or romantic — you need people who respect your boundaries and individuality, who try to understand you. Caring for each other's uniqueness opens the doors to deeper connection.

Part 3
How to cope with difficulties. You feel inspired when faced with challenges that you choose yourself. But you are much stronger when events come unexpectedly. Very often, overcoming difficulties leads to small changes in your own approach and attitude — and it becomes clear that your happiness, like your success, depends on you.