Deadly Number. How to Survive Loss, Help the Grieving, and Change Your Attitude Towards Death

Why is it normal NOT to cry at funerals? How to forgive yourself for the death of a loved one? Where to start a conversation about death? Why is suffering in silence not the way? What to do if there is no one to talk to about death? MARIYA KOKOVA - psychologist, religious scholar, researcher of Death Studies, works in the team of evidence-based psychologists Nesí suda and at the psychological counseling center of HSE University. When a loved one dies, some people withdraw into themselves, while others take the news more calmly and do not change their way of life. In this book, you will learn why the reaction to loss can be different, how long mourning lasts, and how to help yourself or a loved one cope with loss. It discusses various cases related to experiencing loss - death of a loved one or a seriously ill relative, perinatal loss, death of a pet, an unfamiliar person, and much more. Plus useful information about organizing funerals and rules for inheritance, as well as interesting facts about handling the body after death and types of burials. I didn't expect that a book about death could warm the soul. But the touching observations and tactful wit of the writer are very calming. Mariya Kokova gently communicates with the grieving reader. Based on modern psychological models and data from her research, she normalizes the silenced thoughts and explains why people experience the death of a loved one differently. She also raises topics that are rarely discussed seriously. For example, the heaviness of losing an unborn child. Or the longing for a pet. Or grief for a deceased idol. Thanks to the writer's sincerity and sensitivity, it truly becomes easier! - IRINA GALEEVA, neurologist, somnologist, author of the book Brain Drain. Miracles of Perception and Other Features of the Nervous System and medical blog @doctor_galeeva