Attachment and Separation: How to Choose Yourself rather than Your Parents When You're Already Grown Up

• A new book by the bestselling author of «Diving into Yourself» and «Me and My Money», renowned psychologist Vladislav Chubarov
• A popular topic: how to live your own life and not be psychologically dependent on parents, their evaluations, and judgments
• Concrete life hacks and techniques for adult children dealing with difficult, problematic parents
• The book contains many examples from the author's rich practice, accessible and clear language

About

Attachment traumas experienced in childhood reflect in our romantic, friendly, and professional relationships. They influence self-esteem, stress resilience, and the ability to set boundaries, as well as choices in partners, careers, and financial strategies.
Is it possible to get rid of the fear of disappointing parents in adulthood? How to determine your attachment style and achieve emotional maturity? How to prevent your and others' childhood traumas from ruining relationships in a couple, and how to avoid becoming a toxic parent yourself? How can adult children choose an optimal distance from parents, maintain boundaries, and not drown in negative emotions?
Vladislav Chubarov, a renowned psychologist, answers all these questions in his new book, supplementing his responses with examples from years of practice and recommendations that will help readers navigate separation without conflict and resentment.

Quotes

"Attachment arises not only to good and safe but also to unsafe adults. Throughout childhood, we are oriented toward 'our' adults and are forced, as we develop, to adapt to them — no matter who they are. Some of us adapted to a kind and strong adult, some to an unpredictable and angry one, some to an indifferent and cold one, and some to a weak and insecure one, etc. Therefore, the outcome of our childhood emotional development depends on which adult we got and what overall happened in our parental family".
"How intensely you went through the adolescent crisis and how successfully it ended depends both on you (your character, your temperament) and your family (your childhood experience of relationships with adults). A person with insecure attachment finds it harder to go through separation crises because they did not receive enough 'vitamins of attachment' at the previous stage."
"A significant number of adults remain to some extent psychologically dependent on their parents. In my observations, such adults are certainly more than half, and among my clients, around 80%."

For Whom

For adult men and women who want to understand their relationships with their parents and possibly avoid their mistakes in raising their own children.
For adults who feel that their connection with their parents is too painful and emotionally charged, and who would like to finally go through a normal, healthy separation.
For anyone interested in psychology who wants to better understand themselves.