The Courage to Forgive and the Freedom Not to. The Key to Liberation from Emotional Pain

How to cope with offense and betrayal? Should we be lenient towards those who have caused pain? And is it possible not to forgive without feeling guilt because of it?
For many years, we were taught to forgive as it is «beneficial», «frees the soul», and in general — «good people should be able to forgive». However, such an approach places the responsibility on the victim. Psychotherapist with 35 years of experience Janis Spring suggests looking at the situation differently.