I Am Important. How to Recognize Your Value and Stop Accommodating Others

A guide for anyone who is used to living for others and putting their needs above their own, but has realized that this is wrong and wants to break free.

From childhood, we are taught self-sacrifice ("you mustn't upset mom/dad/friend"), which often leads to problems in adulthood. The habit of pleasing others is not kindness, but chronic disregard for one’s own emotions and needs in favor of others'; it undermines careers, relationships, and health. In order to gain approval and a sense of security, we agree when we want to refuse, lose our boundaries and our own voice. The result is fatigue, resentment, and the feeling that you are living someone else's life.

From this book, the reader will learn where the desire to please others comes from and how to reclaim themselves, achieving peace and harmony in their internal psychological home. Hayley Maggi – a certified coach from the Erickson Institute – does not urge "to love yourself and ignore everyone else," but guides the reader through the difficult journey of forming new behavior patterns, understanding how challenging it is to abandon familiar models.