With You, I Am Not. A Guide to Overcoming Unhealthy Attachment and Boosting Self-Esteem

“I’ll endure, and it will get better,” “I will save him,” “He is just very busy at work...”. All of these are typical justifications for relationships that initially seemed like a fairy tale but quickly turned into emotional roller coasters. In this book, Marina Goguyeva, a psychologist with 15 years of experience and a business supervisor, explains why breaking dishes and then passionately making up is not love, but codependency, and how to regain yourself after a traumatic connection. This book offers: - a plan outlining how unhealthy attachment develops; - 60 hidden benefits gained in relationships with an abuser; - personality types prone to codependency; - 6 hooks that prevent you from breaking the connection; - a step-by-step guide to leaving the relationship.