Healthy Egoism. How to Stop Pleasing Others and Love Yourself

We all know what it's like to want to be liked by others, to be approved of, to be accepted. It's part of what makes us human. And there is nothing wrong with wanting to support loved ones and help them meet their needs.
The problem arises when we go down the path of pleasing and give up our own desires.
Because when we give to please others, to earn approval, to bolster our self-esteem, to feel needed, or to avoid painful emotions, we give to get. And rarely do we get what we truly need.
Emma Reed Tarrell, in her clinical psychotherapy practice, works every day with those who people-please—clients struggle with complex life dilemmas where you can't please everyone, but you still don't have the permission you need to please yourself.

What this book teaches:
- Prioritize yourself.
- Be honest with yourself and others about what you want and don’t want to do.
- Not only to know but also to understand your desires.
- Not saying "yes" when you want to say "no."