Clarity Within: How to Reject Imposed Beliefs and Be True to Yourself

Why do others control our lives? Why do we say "yes" when we want to say "no" — to our own detriment? This book will help you rely less on others, build healthy relationships at work, in friendship, and partnership — and regain control over your life.
People are social. That's why we help each other and enjoy communication. But there is a dark side to sociality. The fear of exclusion from the community makes us please others. What does this lead to? We have no energy left for our own goals, we are afraid to speak openly about our feelings, fearing to ruin relationships, or we take on someone else's unfinished work and matters, while pushing our own into the background.
Psychologist Kathleen Smith has written a guide on how to reject imposed beliefs and the expectations of others, communicate with people as equals without dissolving in their lives, and achieve a deep understanding of your true desires and values. The foundation is the family systems concept of Murray Bowen, based on an evolutionary approach to understanding brain function and sociality.
Under the cover — practical advice and exercises that will help replace self-destructive behavior patterns with positive ones. Gradually, you will regain the energy you expend on being accommodating, avoiding conflicts, or trying to fix people, and redirect it towards forming a more meaningful life and fulfilling relationships.
Don’t let others control your life! It's time to reclaim yourself and start getting the most out of close relationships.
This book is for those who…
Too often do what others ask at the expense of themselves.
Want to depend less on the opinions of others.
Feel that they do not control their life.
Are tired of adapting and want healthy relationships — at work, with friends, and in the family.