Attachment in a Child's Life

Psychologist, mother of two sons, and ardent supporter of Gordon Neufeld's attachment theory, Randin Marion wrote a very personal book on how to raise children without punishment, blackmail, or concessions, using natural parental authority, which you can attain through mindfulness and sensitivity. This does not mean that you have to become a perfect parent or sacrifice yourself entirely to motherhood or fatherhood. Quite the opposite! To be mindful and sensitive means to treat not only the child but also yourself with care and attention. It means to understand and recognize how your childhood and past experiences influence your parenting style. It means asking yourself in each situation: why is the child behaving this way and why do I react to their behavior like this? You will learn to see behind each action of the child their true needs – for love, acceptance, and a secure connection with their parents. This connection is the best tool for influencing children, far more reliable and effective than any educational strategies or methods. And it is never too late to form this connection.