About love. How to choose the ideal relationship scenario and become the director of your own story

What is your personal life more like today? For a romantic comedy? Arthouse drama? Thriller?

How can you learn to choose those relationships in which you will be happy, and not those that “happen” to you?

Here is a detailed guide to love relationships in the modern world. Everything that science and popular culture know today about love and romance was collected and analyzed by clinical psychologist and sex therapist Elizaveta Bizyukova so that they could independently:
- navigate the foggy forest of relationship options with the opposite sex;
- understand how one format works and why another does not work;
- find the love “genre” that suits you and today;
- live your own happy scenario and become the hero of a unique love story.


“Lisa wrote a classic mastrid. There are answers to almost all questions here - from the first steps in dating to mysterious modern relationship formats. A clinical psychologist talks about love, sex, communication in couples and psychotherapy - based on a scientific approach and real life. A special pleasure is the references to popular culture, which make reading more exciting and the examples more visual.” — Anton Vautrin, founder and editor-in-chief of the media about psychology “Pure Cognitions”, psychologist, author of the book “Stop Enduring It”

“I was very glad to read this book. And the first thought that came to me was why didn’t I have it 30 years ago? Then she would have helped me a lot, but I had to master everything through trial and error. And this is not always the right path, because mistakes can be fatal, and accidents can be irreversible.
“In my opinion, this book will help many young people find answers to the most important questions in their lives and become the main character of their own series.” — Dmitry Orlov, psychiatrist, sexologist

“This book is a real encyclopedia of formats and scenarios for relationships that are not condemned, but accepted and understood from the point of view of science and practical recommendations. Current research and historical information allow Lisa to orient you in the world of relationships and show all their diversity.
Lisa raises pressing questions that often remain in the shadows: why do you need marriage? What are you looking for in a relationship? What do you see as the roles in your partnership? What will you never agree to?
Lisa shows where your responsibility in a relationship ends and your partner’s zone of influence begins. The author expands the concept of the “ideal relationship” by giving free rein to your needs. She warns you against dangerous motivations to be married. In addition, it gives strategies for dealing with conflicts that will not lead you into a dead end.
A clinical psychologist will guide you by hand through these variations, talking about the risks and sharing tips. Easy, relaxed and with great respect for your situation and your views.
This book won’t force anything on you—it will give you support and direction where you already are and in the values ​​you already follow.” — Alina Tolmacheva, individual and family therapist, sex therapist.