It's inconvenient to be convenient. How to stop pleasing others and cultivate self-respect

Kind and helpful people perform acts that are praised but not valued. This is called selflessness. Literally, convenient people «reject themselves». This can lead to fatal consequences in the form of low self-esteem and loss of self. Therefore, it is important to stand up for your boundaries in time and cultivate healthy selfishness. Some people may turn away from you. Those who previously used you will keep their distance. Those who complained to you about life, unwilling to listen, will lose interest in you. And those who used your friendly services, giving nothing in return, will turn away from you if you stop serving them. But is this a loss?

5 REASONS TO BUY THE BOOK:
- You will learn to say «NO» and stand your ground.
- In the book, you will find a test to determine the level of your kindness.
- You will start to take your own desires seriously and listen to yourself.
- Practical advice will help you remain cordial and friendly, without sacrificing yourself.
- You will get rid of «false kindness» and show the world who you really are.

QUOTES:

• Trying to adjust your self-esteem based on the opinions of others makes a person dependent and doomed to failure.
• It is important to learn to take your own needs as seriously as the needs of others.
• All kind people have a «big heart». And it beats not only for themselves, but primarily for others.
• Washington State University conducted research to find out how much society loves nice people. The results were staggering: the nice ones ended up at the very bottom of the ranking.
• Every time you back down, the egocentrics move forward.

ABOUT THE AUTHOR:

Martin Verle is the most renowned career consultant in Germany. His books are bestsellers and published worldwide. A wide audience knows him from television appearances and columns in ZEIT. Verle was a corporate manager. Today he runs the first career coaching training course in Germany at his career consultant academy in Hamburg. He imparts coaching knowledge and shows how to position oneself as a career coach and, among other things, write one's own books.