We Suit Each Other: How Attachment Theory Can Help Create Harmonious Relationships

A practical guide to attachment theory for those looking to find a suitable partner or improve their current union.
Science tells us what to eat, when to exercise, and how long to sleep. Why not use scientific data to try to improve relationships?
In this book, Dr. Amir Levin and psychologist Rachel Heller explain why some people find romantic relationships easy, while others hopelessly get stuck in suffering. Through the lens of attachment theory, the authors offer a new perspective on love and provide a new definition of relationships.
Attachment theory is well-studied and popular, but it is usually discussed in the context of raising children. Amir Levin and Rachel Heller applied this theory to romantic relationships among adults — and achieved stunning results. They explain how people with different attachment styles behave in relationships, why they cannot behave otherwise, and how to use this knowledge.
There are four types of attachment: secure, avoidant, anxious, and rare anxious-avoidant type. Each has its own characteristics and manner of behavior in romantic relationships. What is natural for the secure type is almost impossible for the avoidant type, and the phrase "it's not you, it's me" takes on a new meaning.
Moreover, Levin and Heller challenge modern theories of self-sufficiency. According to their research, people can and should depend on each other, and secure relationships make us strong and independent in the outside world.
The authors not only discuss attachment styles but also provide practical recommendations. You will learn to identify your type and your partner's type and find out how to behave according to the results. You will receive reasoned and clear answers to eternal relationship questions: why he doesn't call, why all my romances end the same way, how to argue less, when to end a relationship, and how to communicate constructively instead of bombarding each other with complaints.