Created for Love. How Knowledge of the Brain and Attachment Style Can Help Avoid Conflicts and Better Understand Your Partner

Renowned relationship expert and psychotherapist Stan Tatkin reveals how to better understand your partner and turn your relationship into a source of joy. One of the most popular books by MIF about love in a new design.

When entering into romantic relationships, we hope that happiness will come by itself. However, it often turns out that we know very little about the person we have paired with. We have no idea how they are structured, what they think, how they express love, what their habits and needs are, how they behave in conflict situations, and why.

Relationships start to cause pain. What should we do?

Stan Tatkin synthesized knowledge from various fields to create a psychobiological approach to therapy for couples. The first area is neuroscience (the fundamentals of brain function), the second is attachment theory (the biological need to establish connections with other people), and the third is the biology of human arousal (which is about emotional regulation, not sexual arousal).

By reading this book, you will learn:

– how to create a couple's space in which each partner will feel safe;

– how to balance each other's strengths and weaknesses;

– how to become the main people for each other;

– how to revive love through eye contact;

– how to argue correctly and prevent conflicts;

– which rituals will help maintain contact;

– how to preserve sexual attraction to each other.

Who the book is for: 

For everyone who wants to create and maintain reliable and harmonious relationships in a couple.

From the author: 

Relationships are complicated. But we often enter them with minimal help and support. No, I’m not suggesting that you use standard schemes of 1–2–3 steps in relationships with partners. There are no instructions that can reduce the process to automation. We are not robots. What works for one couple is not necessarily good for another. But in any case, you won’t achieve progress if you act blindly like many others and wait for the relationship to develop on its own.

We can take special measures to focus on love first and foremost. These strategies will help create stable, harmonious relationships in which we will aim for effective conflict resolution (when it occurs).

• The basics of attachment theory and neurobiology are explained in simple words

• Each chapter includes exercises that will help reinforce the principles described by the author in practice

• Examples from practice and interesting metaphors

• The book is concise and compact: a wealth of useful information about relationships is condensed into 200 pages

• Rituals that will help you stay tuned to each other

• Rules for a good argument