In Conflict and Joy: How Happy Couples Use Conflicts to Get Closer

John Gottman is the author of the bestsellers "The 7 Principles for Making Marriage Work" and "The 8 Dates" (co-authored with Dr. Julie Gottman). John and Julie Gottman are a married couple and the world's most renowned relationship experts.

For 50 years, the Gottmans, as researchers, have observed couples in a special "Love Lab," analyzing the interactions of spouses both in everyday communication and in the heat of arguments. More than 3,000 people have participated in this experiment. The collected data helped identify the communication principles of happy couples and the mistakes that gradually ruin marriages.

When spouses live soul to soul, they argue. In fact, constantly! But these arguments are not ordinary—they do not separate, but rather help them get closer. John and Julie Gottman explain how any couple can learn to use the principles of conflict in which love wins.

In this book, you will find:
- how arguments contribute to strengthening relationships;
- what types of approaches to conflicts exist and how to identify your own;
- how to move from a "winner or loser" mindset to a collaborative problem-solving approach;
- what five mistakes couples most often make during arguments.