Non-standard Psychology. A Book on How Not to Break Under the Weight of Problems and Find Joy in Life. 3rd Edition

How to stop postponing life for later and find happiness? Why do we experience sharp turns in life and what do they give us? How not to despair when it seems that the good times will never come? This book... is written for those who are at a crossroads and want wise answers to their questions about life, relationships, personal freedom, happiness, and tranquility. The author of the book is Anna Valentinovna Kiryanova — a professional philosopher, a member of the Union of Writers of Russia, and the author of several bestsellers. An excerpt from the book: Don't wait for vacation — live now! Vacations are waited for like manna from heaven. People save money, make plans, and dream of a paradisiacal corner. About new experiences and wondrous views of nature. They count the days until the happy moment arrives. Here they are — high hopes, which in itself is quite dangerous. Psychologists have long noted that the higher our expectations, the less they match reality. And the longer we wait for a joyful event, the less joy it brings us. Our short vacation can bring a lot of pleasure if we do not place overly high hopes on it: to heal from all illnesses in a couple of weeks, to arrange one’s personal life, to get rid of addictions, to rest from work, to improve relationships with loved ones, to gain unforgettable experiences, to restore the nervous system. A vacation is simply a segment of life, full of pros and cons, joys and disappointments. And do not be too upset if something does not go as you would like. There is one secret of memory: when you return, minor everyday problems will be forgotten, while pleasant impressions will become bright and healing! And that is great. Our brain will sort through all events and keep only those that brought positive emotions.