Tell me what you want. How to stop being ashamed of your sexual fantasies and openly discuss them with your partner

What do you really want when having sex? More precisely: what are your most intimate sexual fantasies? Justin J. Lehmiller, an American expert on human sexuality, conducted an unprecedented, the largest scientific study of sexual fantasies to date. Before you decide in advance that something is wrong with you, take a breath: you are not the only one who experiences such desires. Most likely, what you dream about may also be the fantasies of your friends, acquaintances, and even, frighteningly, your parents. There’s no need to run away from them. This book will help you learn to accept fantasies as an integral part of your life; moreover, you will learn: - which desires are considered unusual, and which are rare; - why male sexual fantasies differ from female ones, and what it depends on; - which fantasies to share with a partner and how to do it safely; - how the realization of your most intimate fantasies affects future relationships; - 4 lessons about sex and love that will break your barriers to new experiences. REVIEWS: An incisive erotic X-ray into the hidden corners of our sexual psyche. Fresh and insightful, Lehmiller exposes the gray matter of great sex. — Ian Kerner, author of the bestsellers She Comes First and He Comes Again Lehmiller provides a well-reasoned and unbiased assessment of sexual life and fantasies. This book is essential for anyone seeking a roadmap of their sexuality and wondering where to head next. — Christopher Ryan, author of the bestseller Sex at Dawn