Love is not a feeling. How to choose the one you'll be with for a long time

“Why is this guy so attractive?” — you think, looking at the inaccessible “princess” or the next watermelon guy (your radar is set perfectly for them). If there was a flash of “oh, that’s me” — you are in the right place. Daria Shamas will not persuade you to “love yourself” for the hundredth time or give advice on how to leave toxic relationships. Instead, it’s honest, with jokes and without rose-colored glasses: who you are, why you behave this way, and what to do (or not do) about it. This is about sex, pain, and the “goddess within” (spoiler: she’s not in a yoga pose). And most importantly: how to stop stepping on the same rakes and find the love you want.

Dasha Shamas is a psychological educator, author of therapeutic guides, journalist and stylist, studied at the psychology faculty of MIP. Relying on a scientific basis, the author talks about love simply, extremely openly, without illusions and moralizing. She has helped thousands of women understand themselves and their relationships. For over 8 years, she worked as a journalist and editor of the “Psychology” section in magazines Oops, Yes, Cosmo, Elle, and Elle Girl.